In case you hadnâ€™t heard, itâ€™s tri-deltâ€™s famous Fat Talk Free Week. (Shouldnâ€™t there be a hyphen or two in there somewhere? There should. Between the Fat and the Talk, methinks.)
Anyhow, I and the women I surround myself with these days are pretty good at not saying nasty things about their bodies out loud. But I can remember thinking and saying things about my body when I was a teenager and in my early 20s that were pretty freakinâ€™ horrendous. My old favorite: “Iâ€™m disgusting”
But I havenâ€™t thought that about myself in at least three years, and I havenâ€™t said it in even longer than that. Hereâ€™s what a very smart person once recommended I do when a harmful or disturbing thought came into my head (this is sort of a modified CBT technique). Grab a pen and:
1. Write down the emotion you were feeling at the time (sad, anxious, etc.)
2. Write down the automatic judgement or thought you had (Iâ€™m gross; my thighs are disgustingly fat, etc.)
3. Take a look at this list of what therapists call “cognitive distortions” and see which one (or two, or three) of them you were making. (My favorite was always All-or-Nothing Thinking. Either Iâ€™m thin-and-perfect, or fat-and-fuckedup. Hallelujah for healing!)
4. Write alternative, more rational responses. (Like for me: Yes I have a couple layers of subcutaneous adipose tissue on my belly area. But…so? All that Pilates has made my core hella strong. Soft and strong. Yep, thatâ€™s me!)
Whatâ€™s the worst thing youâ€™ve said to your body? And what can you say instead?