Sunny’s Story

Research over the last five years has found that binge eating disorder is actually twice as common as anorexia and bulimia combined in women of all backgrounds and ages, including teens. I was one of them.

In high school, I’d skip lunch just like the other girls or pick at fries when we’d congregate at McDonald’s. But when my parents started fighting-and ultimately, talking divorce-a puzzling, frenzied pattern of eating started to emerge. At 14, I sat on top of our German shepherd’s doghouse in the middle of the night, a can of frozen orange juice concentrate in one hand, a spoon in the other, crying and scooping the syrupy stuff into my mouth until it was almost gone. At 15-alone a lot, with my father out of the house and my mother working more than one job. I ordered and ate two small pizzas the night I broke up with my first boyfriend.

Soon I was sneaking into the kitchen almost every night-praying my mom wouldn’t hear the wooden floors creak-to eat three, four, five pieces of bread with butter and peanut butter or to nuke a huge plate of chips and cheese for makeshift nachos. When I babysat my neighbors’ kids, or cleaned their houses for extra cash, I spent half the time rifling through their cupboards, stealing their kids’ Little Debbie snacks and potato chips.

I thought I was a pig, and a freak, because I couldn’t stop this weird, secret, uncontrollable eating. I started wearing big, baggy sweaters or sweatshirts over leggings to hide what I thought was an unacceptably fat body.

When I ate seven candy bars in a row one afternoon, I knew there was something desperately wrong. That’s when my mom sent me to Mitch, the family counselor both she and my dad had been seeing throughout their divorce. He gave a name to what I had been doing: compulsive overeating-what’s now also known as binge eating disorder-and he gave me a book to read, Feeding the Hungry Heart,by Geneen Roth.

While it was one of the most important things I’ve ever read, the true beginning of my recovery, it was meant for grown ups. Women with kids. Married women. I couldn’t fully relate to the people in the book. That’s one reason I started HealthyGirl,org, to be a resource for teens and young women who want to stop overeating.

Today, I’m no longer binge eating. I’m a deputy editor at Redbook magazine in New York City, and am at a healthy and stable weight. After years of hating myself, hating my body, and abusing it with way too much food, I’m finally healthy and happy. I want you to be, too!

For more on how I recovered, start here—or just jump right in to some personal posts over here.

73 Responses to Sunny’s Story

    • Sheryl Porter says:

      Dear Sunny (what a beautiful name), I commend you on your insightful book which was written with tremendous compassion. I too have suffered the majority of my life with eating disorders and the strive for normality, to find peace with food (and acceptance of the inevitable backsliding). I also found the book “Eating Less” by Gillian Riley helpful. She talks about tools called Times and Plans which help you focus on retraining your habits one meal/snack at a time so that you form new habits around food and with each success learn to trust in yourself. Best wishes to you and your family…Sheryl, 53yo, Perth Western Australia. ♡

  1. Veronica Miranda says:

    I am really happy that I found this site. You always hear about anorexia and bulimia but you never hear about binge eating. People may think that binge eating is not as serious as anorexia or bulimia but it is. I suffer from binge eating and it really sucks. I eat when I am happy, sad, angry, mad, whatever mood I am in. I also eat because I am lonely. I have no friends so that causes me to eat more. Another reason I overeat is because I feel the need to eat to fill a void. My life is empty so eating makes me feel less lonely. Anyways, I just wanted to say that I am glad that I found this site and I hope to find ways to cope with this disorder. -Veronica

    • hlthygrl says:

      Hey Veronica, I’m glad you found this site, too! That’s exactly why I started it-binge eating and emotional overeating are incredibly widespread problems, but they don’t get a lot of play. I’d love to know what you’d like to see more of on the site. Journaling activities? Personal stories? Tips? Thanks for commenting, welcome to and [[hugs]]. Sunny

      • Hi! I am 15 and is struggling with BED. I have always tried to diet or at least cut out one specific unhealthy snack . But I always fail and binge uncontrollably. I use food as a source of happiness. I know it shouldn’t but it just becomes automatic these days. I find the art and writing not a good replacement for food. Do you have some tips? What can I do when I am sad?

  2. sami says:

    I always try to eat healthy… a year ago I was light overweight and people were making fun of me, so I started going on a diet, in just a few months I lost 30 pounds (in the moment I weight 103, I’m sixteen), everybody said that I looked perfect and congratulated me for my weight-loss, but I still thought that I wasn’t thin enough so I continued losing weight.
    This time I lost 10 pounds, people started worrying about my health and my mom and my grandma were thinking that I got a real problem, so anorexic.
    In my head I looked normal and more beautiful than ever!
    Now I also recognized that I had to stop losing weight, so people would stop complaining and talking about my weight. I could keep my weight for a few months, but the people didn’t stop and although I didn’t loose weight, my mam still thought that I was on a diet and forced me to weight myself all the time to show her, that I didn’t lost more weight. I didn’t want to weight myself, because I knew that I was to thin so I had a lot of descussions with my mom.
    I start feeling like a monster, I thought I was anorexic too, and to thin to go swimming, I didn’t want to do something with my friends because I thought they would be shoked seeing me so thin.
    I got sader and sader, but then one day I knew I had to do something against it, so at night I sneaked in the kitchen and ate as much as I could.
    I felt horrible, I feared that I would gain weight although I wanted to gain weight, but the next night I did the same thing. I continued doing this for a few weeks, and my appetit grew bigger and bigger.
    After gaining 8 pounds I felt horrible, so I wanted to loose weight again but i couldn’t I hate to binge eat all the time!
    And now I still struggle with it, sometimes I got it under control and sometimes I can’t control it! what can I do?

    • it takes time says:

      I hope you are doing better, hang in there and get help from a professional (if you haven’t yet)

  3. Sophie says:

    Sunny, from the bottom of my heart thank you. I had no idea anyone else in the world did this. Your story completely opened my eyes.

    Love the site - love your courage - love the message.

    Your piece on the weird food rules was so helpful, especially when you offered replacement rules.

    Sorry for the brief message that feels so inadequate - I am still so shocked and relieved to find out there is a name, there is a cure.

    Thank you again and wishing you get back even half the blessings you are bestowing with this site. -Sophie

    • hlthygrl says:

      Hi Sophie,
      I am so happy that you found You’re not only not ALONE, you’re one of many, many, many if you emotionally overeat or binge. The statistics are staggering. Binge eating disorder is thought to be twice as common as anorexia and bulimia combined. But there’s help! I hope you find some of it here. Big hugs and lots of hope to you. Sunny

  4. Dora says:

    Amazing site! I’m so glad I found this. At seventeen, I tend to emotionally overeat, and I think girls my age do the same a lot more than they are willing to admit! This is so perfect for bringing up my day, and I look forward to updates! 😀

    • hlthygrl says:

      Hi Dora,
      I think you’re right-I think there are lots and lots of girls doing this. Even if it doesn’t get to full-on eating disorder or full-on bingeing territory, there are so many who overeat once in a while to make themselves feel better. But then, of course comes the guilt, the weight worries…etc. It’s crazy how food can make us feel so good, yet so bad at the same time, right?


  5. Cheri Osmundsen says:

    Thank you for sharing your story, with such honesty… I never knew the extent of it, and we have been friends for 26 years, which goes to show the power of the disease..
    I love you sunny….

  6. Elissa Green says:

    Hi Sunny!
    Just wanted to say I am so proud of you. Love and miss you.

  7. Candy says:

    wow…. there is a name for what i have and i’m not alone. I have had a sigh of relief since finding this website. Thanks. I am going to locate the books and start reading.

  8. sami says:

    It’s me again
    I’m already on a good way to a better health, but sometimes I wish, I know it’s weird, but I wish, i could eat whatever I want and not gain a pound… this happened to be my biggest wish ( sad…)
    This was never my biggest wish, but since i started to look after my health and planning my meals, this wish is stuck in my head.
    But as long as it is just a wish I think I’m ok, I know that it’s not good to binge.

  9. Gaye Harris says:

    Hi Sunny, Even though I am not an overeater, I am an addict and I can relate to those same feelings of overeating as your readers do. The same shame, the same self loathing and the same emptyness. I am very proud to be your auntie. Keep up the good work!!!!! Luv Gaye

  10. Sunny,
    Thank you for the gift of your site. I admire you for having the courage to tell your story, and respect you for tackling the roots of your issues. People usually continue to dance around the symptoms of eating disorders - including binge eating disorder- and don’t often work on the underlying causes of what made them turn to food as a drug of choice in the first place. My book and blog explore why we get entangled with the body image bandit, and how to fight him and win. Thanks again, Cherrie

  11. Rachael says:

    Thank you for sharing your story and making this site. I have been a binge eater for 6 years and this is such a breath of fresh air to read warm and helpful stories rather than the usual diet -hate-yourself crap

  12. Thank you for sharing your inspiring story and being a source of support for other young women who struggle with compulsive overeating. I admire your strength for overcoming your disorder, as well as your wisdom in recognizing there was a problem in the first place. You offer a great resource here!

  13. sami says:

    okay, I think I’m already a little annoying…
    I stopped with my binge eating disorder, I was able to control it and I was ok for a few months, but now I started with another eating disorder! I have bulimia, I eat healthy during the day but when I come home, I binge and after force myself to throw it up!!!! I’m so hopeless, I have the feeling that I will never be healthy again! I mean first I was anorexic, then I had the binge eating disorder and now bulimia!!!!
    I think I can handle it, but i really have to stop thinking about food as a bad thing and I recognized that as long as I have something to do I don’t binge and so don’t have to throw up!!!!!
    I stopped with throwing up for one week, but I’m so afraid that it will come back!

    • Sunny says:

      First, Sami, you’re not annoying. Ever! :) Second, I’ve got to say this as clearly as I can-and I’m saying it with love: YOU CANNOT HANDLE THIS ALONE. Anorexia, binge eating and bulimia are serious psychological issues. It’s not just a matter of eating a little too much or not being able to stick to a diet. Honey, this stuff is serious. It can harm your body (infertility, heart attack, death), your mind (depression, anxiety) and your potential to live a successful and happy life. Go here right now and look up a resource for the country you live in:
      And tell your mom or someone else you really trust. Sami, you need help, we all do! You’re not weak, you’re sick, just like the rest of us were.

    • Charlotte says:

      I just wanted to say that your anorexia story you posted back in October is almost IDENTICAL to mine. I’m also 16 years old, and I’ve been struggling with eating issues since I was a little kid. I feel so, so sorry for everything you’ve been through and I know how f*cking awful it feels to be consumed by an eating disorder. I’ve experienced all types of them, just like you, so don’t feel like you’re weak because you’ve had more than one eating disorder. In fact don’t ever call yourself weak. I think that girls with eating disorders are some of the most misunderstood, smartest, and strongest ones out there, and their eating issues are just obstacles standing in the way of who they truly are.

      • sami says:

        thanks ^^
        it’s good to hear from somebody with the same problems! And you know what? I stopped with all my eating disorders a month ago, without any help, Ijust stopped, I told myseld that I’m strong and that I can do it, I feel so good since then!

        • Alissa says:

          Hi Sami, just thought I’d add my own 2 cents. I’m not an expert, but I am a counselor at an eating disorder residential treatment center as well as in my own recovery from binge eating disorder. EDs tend to have a way of sneaking back into your life; like waves, they ebb and flow. Even if you are doing better, why not seek help just in case? ED counselors and therapists treat people who have all sorts of experiences with disordered eating and body image-you don’t need to necessarily classify yourself as desperately in need of help to find it and really benefit from it.

          I hope I don’t come across as preachy-I guess I’m just trying to tell you what I wish someone had told me years ago.

          Good luck,

    • Kel says:

      Hugs! Sunny is right. xx

  14. Daniella says:

    Hi Sunny!
    I followed you on and I just stumbled upon this site recently. Thank you so much for this site. I have always had some type of disordered eating, which has usally involved dieting, followed by bingeing. I have always been an emotional eater and being in a big Italian family, it just seemed normal. But I suppose that I have always known my eating patterns were not normal. I eat significantly more than everyone else, usually in private and it is a very destructive pattern. Trying to take control of my eating has never been easy. I am still trying to recover from this and have yet to figure out what triggers my emotional eating. This is something that I will always struggle with.
    Thank you for this inspring blog!

  15. Kim says:

    Hey Sunny,
    Its weird how i can and also can’t relate to many of the girls here,
    but sometimes i tend to overeat and then just totally not want to
    eat a thing, i might even have only one meal and a snack per day at times. i may even be anemic.

    its hard to get on a regular eating schedule because i just cannot
    stick to it . im 160 pounds at age 16 and i feel huge. i am even overweight because of my 5’6 height. ughh!

    it doesn’t help me much knowing that. but im still glad i found this site straight out of a link in


  16. Angela says:

    I love you blog! Thank you so much for being who you are, going through what you did and making something positive out of it! You are an inspiration to so many of us.

  17. […] breathing chimera of all three groups. I am recovered from binge eating disorder (BED) and obesity (I weighed 225 pounds during college, when my bingeing was at its worst), and I'm also a long-time health editor at Glamour […]

  18. I didn’t even know there was a name for binge eating disorder much less that anyone else suffered from it until about 10 years ago. I’ve been doing the work for the past two years but its only been in the past few weeks that I finally feel like I’m making progress. I’m so glad I found your blog. Thanks for sharing your story.


  19. Angie says:

    Hi Sunny!

    So glad I found your blog via Twitter. You have such a compelling story. Thank you for sharing it.

    I share your passion of growing positive body image in women….I work with adult women in the weight loss field who have such negative body image. Gosh, if we could help teenagers!

    Thanks for what you do!

  20. Amy says:

    I am so glad to have found this website. I’ve been a yo-yo dieter for years but just within the last year my binge eating has gotten out of control. I am in an unhappy marriage and have a young child that is going through the terrible two’s. Sometimes I will hit two drivethru’s right in a row or wait for everyone to go to sleep and eat as much as I can late at night. Then I can’t sleep because of the guilt and how uncomfortable and sick I feel. I hope to get this under control soon for my child’s sake, just wanted to say thank you for sharing your story and letting us know we are not alone.

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  22. Lyn says:

    I stumbled across this site today, and it is honestly one of the best sites I have found!
    I’ve been ‘secret’ eating for years, and for the majority of those didn’t really realise what I was doing - I was skinny as anything, and never really had a problem with my weight.
    When I started university, the pressures of studying, relationships, etc etc caught up with me, and added to the freedom of eating essentially what I wanted, these eating habits spiralled out of control. A couple of years later, I’ve finally started to be a lot more conscious of what I’m eating, and am on my way to getting things under control.
    I hadn’t really found ANYTHING that I could relate to as well as this site (there seems to be a lot of anorexia/bulimia/binge eating in older people advice, but not so much for my generation), so I just wanted to say thank you, and hopefully when I feel the need to binge, I can take a few deep breaths, have a look at all your stories, and realise that I’m not alone in this! Looking forward to not feeling so guilty all the time :).

    • Sunny says:

      Hi Lyn. I’m so glad you found Please do come back and click around. I’d suggest reading some of the Real Stories, especially, to help you realize even more so that you’re not alone. There are so many young women out there dealing with emotional eating issues! It doesn’t make it any more fun, but it does make it make a little more sense. xo…Sunny

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  24. angela says:

    I was so pleased to find this website. i am in my 50s and have had a binge eating disorder for all that time and have suffered on and on. finally i found the geneen roth book ‘Women food and god’ and am doing her online retreat and it is finally working! i am starting to get in touch with my own body for the first time in my life or at least for a very long time. i cant believe how much i have tortured this body and ignored it, trying to live in my mind. thank you for this website.

  25. Hayley says:

    I hav suffered from aneroxica for about a year, living at 6stone and eating very little. I realised I had a problem when I saw pictures of my self. When I started 2 eat a little bit more sonethink clicked in my head and I started 2 binge eat on a massive scale. It’s scaring me as I hav put on so much weight.

  26. katherine says:

    I came across this website trying to look up why i overeat and its great to find other girls like me i thought i was the only one. Ive been binging off and on for almost 6 months now. I lost a lot of wieght in the summer, almost 30 pounds, but then my mom got sick so i wasnt eating healthy anymore. And after she got better i tried going back on the diet but i just failed which mad me sad and then i would eat till i felt sick then i would starve myself all day but binge at the end of the day. I dont know how to deal with this ive gained so much wieght back. I really want to get my self confidence back. What do i Do ?

    • Sunny says:

      Hi Katherine,
      I’m glad you found and reached out. It’s important to know that bingeing and starving isn’t just a matter of willpower or sticking to a “diet”—it’s a true type of eating disorder. These things can’t be fixed by diets, as you’ve sadly had to find out. But it’s good that you now know you’re not alone. The next step is to get help. There are lots of ways for you to do that, including self-help, therapy, and support groups. Telling someone you trust (like your parents) can also be very key—we often try to keep this a secret and think we should be strong enough to fix it all alone, but that’s often not the case. Please look around the web site more and decide what your next step is. Don’t worry about making the “wrong” decision. There is no wrong decision as long as you are choosing to do something that will help you get better.

  27. Makenzie says:

    Hello! I was reading my Seventeen magazine when I came across an article called “The Secret New Eating Disorder.” I saw your website, so I came to it. For the last 4 or 5 years, I have been struggling with anorexia, bulimia, and binge eating disorder. I lost too much weight, and now I gained a lot back by binging. I could lose some weight and still be considered at a healthy range, but people tell me that I look good right now. I want to lose weight, but I can’t stop eating! After a binge, I usually throw up, but still I gain weight. My parents are not supportive. I’ve tried to tell them how serious it is and that I can not fix it on my own. They will not listen. I cn’t get a therapist until I am 18 because I can not get my parents’ consent. I am a freshman in high school this year. What do I do for myself until I am 18?

    • Sunny says:

      Hi Makenzie,
      I’m so sorry your parents aren’t supportive. That must be very hard. But you are very strong for still realizing that there is something seriously wrong and looking for ways to get help. I’m going to send you an email.

  28. Madison says:

    Thank you so much for this site! After reading the story above, I realize I’m not the only one who feels like a freak and that they can’t control their body. The end of my junior, and now my senior year, of high school, I became very stressed with boyfriends, fake friends, and family issues. I went from a very stable weight of 120lbs to having gained almost thirty pounds. I felt so ashamed and sickened every time an article of clothing couldn’t fit or my mom pointed out that I looked fat in something. I felt disgusting, but I didn’t know what to do. I didn’t realize binge eating was an actual disorder. Where can I find more help?

    • Sunny says:

      Hi Madison,
      I’m so glad you read that piece and found my site! Your story sounds very similar to mine. (You can read even more about it in the May issue of Redbook-my mom even weighs in!) In the meantime, I’ve found that the basic tools that many people (including me) use to get better are self-help books, therapy, and support groups. I have info on all of those things, with specific suggestions in the Resources section of the site. I’ve also just written a book detailing how I recovered, it’s called Food: The Good Girl’s Drug. If you can’t afford to buy it, you can request that your local library purchase a copy and then just check it out! Please stay in touch and let us all know how you’re doing, ok? xo…Sunny

  29. Clairmonde says:

    I am looking forward to reading your book. Your site is full of excellent links and reading. I personally am just address this issue after years of yo-yo weight loss and gains. I could easily sit down in a quiet space and eat an entire pack of cookies or six cupcakes etc. My husband thinks this is just willpower and that I should be able to resist or stop at anytime like he could. Of course he is naturally lean with a high metabolism and no cravings of any kind. I hope to read this book and share it with him as an educational tool versus him constantly telling me I am overweight and should just get a handle on my eating.

  30. Kiwi says:

    Thank you for writing this…I’m so glad I found it because I have the exact same problem. I’ll barely eat anything and then when something that causes my anxiety or my depression to act up I’ll just eat and eat to try and get myself to calm down. I’m on my third cinnamin roll as we speak and dinner is in four hours. I feel like such a pig even though I’m working out. There’s times where I’ll even skip breakfast and eat a tiny bit of lunch before eating a small dinner. I’m so worried about my weight to the point where a mirror has stopped being my friend. Is there anything I can do to stop this horrible cycle? You worked it out which gives me a small ounce of hope that maybe I can too.

  31. Lydia says:

    I am so glad to have found this site. For years I have been noticing my irrational eating, but thanks to the control my parents wanted to establish after I lived with my mother I was able to rein it in during the most of my teen years, but now I’m a senior in high school. I’ve had problems with PTSD, and I’ve dealt with my anxiety and depression in a number of ways. I compulsively pull my hair, but now only split ends, and I pick at my mild acne (gross I know). I have also cut, but it wasn’t until this year after five years that I would try and draw blood. Now that I work at a grocery store I have unlimited access to food. I’m stressed about my relationship with my stepmom, which can be great one day and end with her threatening to kick me out. I’m scared about going to college and being away from my wonderful boyfriend, as well as being totally on my own financially.
    To deal with this I’ve been eating nonstop. When I’m hungry, stuffed, doesn’t matter. When I work I “indulge” myself in ice cream and pastries for dinner, eating several bags of Hot Cheetos a day. I hide food in my room to deal with the apathy and guilt associated with “senior-itis”. Already these last few weeks I’ve noticed I’ve gained weight in my middle, and the salads and health foods I used to love so much can’t satisfy me anymore. I’m scared that this problem will stay longer than it has in the past. I can’t tell my parents. My stepmom doesn’t believe in mental sickness and thinks I use post-traumatic stress disorder as an excuse. Any help I get I will have to pay for on my own, which I can’t afford. Everytime I eat I feel like a hypocrite.

  32. Val says:

    I never thought I had a problem until today. I am 19 and have been a binge eater all my life. Today I realized I could eat more than the people around me and not feel full. As a kid I was chunky I got into sports and lost a lot of baby fat, I got quite thin. I was always and still am an active person, I workout everyday (running and lifting weights) however my eating habits have gotten worse. I can eat a whole box of pizza or a whole box of cereal and not get full. I tell myself it’s going to be okay because I workout but i know it’s not. I need help. I have fitness goals and having BED is killing me emotionally and only holding me back. I look at myself in the mirror and I hate what I see because I know I work so hard working out to not be where I want to physically be.

  33. Lisa says:

    I just learned I have Binge Eating Disorder myself, and I’m getting the help I need!

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